Maybe blogging just isn't for me

Maybe blogging just isn’t for me

When I first started blogging I read a lot of blogs and all I ever wanted to do was master their effortless writing style and their fresh and professional images. They were my inspiration and I wanted them to help me to mould my own blog’s personality.

But I soon realised that my blog was never going to be like their blogs. I’m not the crisp white bedsheets and coffee kinda girl. I’m more of a campervan print bedsheets and apple juice kinda girl and that’s the kind of girl I didn’t see much of when I first started blogging.

I wanted to be myself, but I didn’t feel like the right person to have a blog. I don’t have a vast collection of MAC make-up, in fact I don’t have any make-up, so I was never going to be a beauty blogger. But even the cutest lifestyle blogs I’d seen published beauty posts every now and then.

My bedroom is teeny tiny so I could never take those well lit professional pictures that I see so many other bloggers sharing. I tried to use Pinterest once but I didn’t have a clue what I was doing, which was probably a blessing because my photography skills really weren’t up to scratch.

I tried to do the odd outfit of the day post every now and then but my wardrobe isn’t very varied and I always felt silly and didn’t know where or how to pose. Plus my boyfriend Jordan hated how long it took to take all of the pictures and, it wasn’t his fault, but he never took them quite how I wanted them.

I’ve been thinking and I’ve realised that you don’t need to be a certain type of person to have a blog. There isn’t a list of criteria that you need to meet before you can call yourself a blogger.

Your blog doesn’t need to be perfect either. It just needs to be something you love working on because people can tell from the writing when a blog means something to someone and a blog is so much more interesting when it’s authentic.

I might post the odd outfit of the day every now and then but it’ll be an outfit that I think is cute, whether it’s stylish or not. I’ll always try and add pictures to my posts, but they’ll never be perfect. And I will never write a beauty post because that’s just not my thing.

Your blog doesn’t have to match up to the enormously successful ones, just enjoy yourself and write what you feel.

Image taken by Helene in Between

112 thoughts on “Maybe blogging just isn’t for me

  1. I love this post. I love love love it because you and I are the same. My sheets and covers rarely match, I only have one window in my room, I share it with a toddler and often times get photobombed by her, which isn’t terrible but I’m not that blogger. And I’m glad I don’t feel alone in the slight struggle to want to be that blogger. And I am glad you know you don’t have to be.

    I like the quirky photos, I like outfits of the day with a shirt from last week, I like personality and that’s what it is that makes you (as in you in general) stand out!! Plus, the pressure of niche blogging is just so heavy on the lifestyle blogger who lives the simple life, lol.

    1. Thank you Jade, I’m so glad you love my post! I completely agree with you, personality is vital when it comes to blogging.

  2. This was an absolutely AWESOME post and I commend you on writing it so much! Sometimes I feel like that, I look at all these successful blogs and their amazing high quality pictures and products and I think that I can’t compare to that. The truth is that no you can’t, you can’t compare, because you are you and you are unique! You should do you and not try and be somebody that you’re not. You need to find your own style and just let your personality shine through your posts and soon people will value your content for you being true to yourself! I can relate to this so much, keep on blogging 😀

    Katie
    http://www.katiehodgkinson.com

    1. Thank you so much Katie, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post and that you can relate to it. Thank you for reading!

  3. I’m on your team! In fact it was only a week ago I was looking around at other Dad bloggers and thinking to myself ‘I’m 5 weeks in and after having a good look a round can I cut it quite like these guys’, I nearly stopped but then I remembered I’d just made a massive mistake that I myself had written about a few weeks before…. Never compare yourself to others, you aren’t them, you’re you. In ‘real life’ I go about my days being me and I have everything I need so it;s obviously working for me. So I now try to transfer that mentality to my blog. I’ll write stuff and what happens from there will either happen or it won’t, but I feel great I’ve got it off my chest. 😀

    1. You’re right David, you should never compare yourself! We’re all different and that’s what makes our blogs great, otherwise they’d all be really boring. Thanks for reading!

  4. I love love LOVE this post so much and it’s exactly what I’ve been needing to read & be reassured about for such an awfully long time. I’ve tried numerous times to start a blog and been backed into a little corner by fear of my own inadequacy to ‘live up’ to the kind of bloggers you see most, but the truth is that just isn’t me either. I’m not a pristine, effortless kind of girl – I have freckles, messy hair, paint stains on my sleeves, chew my lip when I’m nervous and more often than not have dog hair all over my jumpers from cuddling my dog. My notebooks are full of crossings out, I don’t own lots of chic makeup, and my room isn’t light and picture perfect, but I’m learning that that’s okay, and thankyou so so much for helping reassure me that this is the case. You don’t have to ‘fit in’ to blog, or be like everyone else. You can make your own pathway and be so much more real, engaging and wonderful because of it too. Thankyou you utter star! Xxxxx

    1. Hi Rachel! I’m so glad that my post has gone some way in reassuring you and helping you to realise that it’s okay not to be perfect. Thank you for reading xxx

  5. This is such a great post! I think loads of people feel this way. I certainly do, but as you said, we enjoy it and that’s all thats needed.
    This post is so reassuring x

  6. You just described what I’ve been thinking, but couldn’t find the words for it! I really thought that I was alone in this, but clearly not and I am so happy about that. I always try, and then I come up with 1 or 2 good looking posts, but for other posts, I can’t be constantly out for outfit pics because I always wear the same, or I can’t afford to pay for ‘another mac lipstick’ just for a review. Indeed, I also want my blog to look good, like other big blogs, but I can’t afford to pay 50 bucks on a template. And these days, they say you have to have a few things to write about, to be succesfull. Why can’t I write about whatever I want? Oh well, I love this post. It reminds me that I must do whatever I want, instead of what other people want to see 🙂 keep doing what you do

  7. I often feel like I can’t cut it in the blogging game but I’m coming to realise that I don’t care. I’m not your white bedsheet kinda girl either and that’s OK! I’m not the type of girl to have an Instagram theme either or spend crazy amounts on some eyeliner!

    Blogging is open to everyone. Anyone can just set up a site and just go! I find the whole lifestyle, nitty gritty blogs the best blogs and that ones that I keep going reading time and time again.

    Love this post. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like this. Us different girls need to stick together

    Becky
    Blogger & The Geek

    1. I feel the same as you Becky! Lifestyle blogs are my favourite blogs because there’s a bit of everything and I just find them so much more original than beauty or fashion blogs. Thanks for reading.

    1. I agree with you Olivia! I’m glad so many others agree too. If we were all the same blogging would be dull and pointless!

  8. I love, love, loveee this post! It’s about time bloggers and in real life in fact realise that to be successful you don’t have to fit in to one crowd or stereo type. You hit it right on the head honey and couldn’t have said it any better. Keep doing what you’re doing because it’s what makes you, you! People read your blog because they love it and that’s what is most important! A x

  9. This post is wonderful! I felt exactly the same when I started blogging. I came to realise that it shouldn’t matter what I’m posting as long as I’m writing about things that I enjoy and that make me happy. I hate when people say you should have a blogging niche. Why can’t your niche just be you? I kind of get a little bored when every single blog is reviewing the same product too. Variety is much better. Keep on blogging! x

    1. Thank you Elizabeth! I agree with you, who needs a niche anyway?! Thanks for reading, I’m glad you enjoyed the post x

  10. I absolutely love this post! I guess I would classify myself as a “travel blogger” but in all honesty, I have no idea how actual travel bloggers are able to post multiple times per week. I’m lucky if I do something interesting enough to write about once a month. I’ve found that if I just write what ever I feel like, I’m happier. I don’t stress about staying in my niche or living up to what other bloggers set as standards.

    Stephanie
    Adventures in Aussieland

    1. I’m so glad you feel this way Stephanie! Blogging is so much fun, no one should be stressed or upset because they feel like they can’t live up to another blogger’s standard!

  11. Sophie, this is really inspiring! I’ve only just come across your blog and it’s actually refreshing to see someone who isn’t constantly posting about make-up and clothes. I own make-up, and I love clothes shopping, but that doesn’t mean that’s all I ever want to read about.
    I started my own blog at the beginning of this year too, and although I’ve branded it ‘lifestyle’, I choose to focus on interior design and the stuff I do around the house. I don’t think my blog will ever be as successful as the ones you mention, but that’s OK with me!
    Write because you want to, not to get followers. You go girl! 🙂

  12. I think we go through many phases when we start blogging. I know I wanted to be like everyone else and still do to some extent. But I never will because that’s not who I am. I don’t have the skills to have a crisp site or the willpower to create fabulous posts everyday. I don’t post that often, just when I feel like it and that’s how it should be!
    Amy at Amy & More

  13. I definitely don’t think there’s a specific set of criteria of a ‘good blogger’ – althought it can look like that on the surface! I find that I’m much more likely to return to blogs regardless of the images or the posts as long as they write from the heart! Keep up the good work 🙂
    Nicky x | http://www.teaandtakeaways.wordpress.com

  14. Well said. You described exactly how I feel a lot of the time. As long as you love writing your blog and are passionate about each post , who’s to say what’s right and wrong or what’s fits and what doesn’t. We just need to be ourselves and not try to be someone we’re not just to fit in. Great post.
    Sharon X

    https://rosieloveslife.blogspot.com

  15. I couldn’t agree more with everything you said, very well put. I think sometimes with blogging it can be difficult to not fall into the trap of trying to mould your blog into what you think a blog ‘should be,’ if that makes sense. In my opinion there’s no right way to have a blog, I think everyone should just do what they want with their own blog and see where it takes them 🙂

    http://www.thesundaymode.blogspot.com.au

  16. This, This, This.
    I am old enough to know better, but you will always find yourself thinking what has she/he got that I haven’t.
    Thank you for saying what we have all been thinking.

  17. This was a great post. Sometimes I look at other people’s blogs and I just think that I will never be good enough but what I need to realise is that I am already good enough!

  18. I love this post. It makes me sad seeing people who think that a blog needs to be ONE thing. It’s YOUR blog. It’s YOUR words. People should feel free to write about whatever they want! It’s what I do, and will continue to do. I know I don’t want to read 100 blogs that are all the same. There’s room for all of us out there!

    1. I couldn’t have put it better myself, you’ve described how I feel perfectly! You’re exactly right, the blogging community would be super boring if everyone’s blog was the same.

  19. I totally felt the same when I started blogging. You can feel like your blog has to be like everyone else’s and in the beginning I was trying so hard to make my blog like everyone else’s but I started to lose my enthusiasm for it. I finally changed my blog up and I couldn’t be happier with it now. I feel like you just have to be true to yourself and your readers will see that in your posts

    1. I totally agree with you Abigail. I’m so glad you found your own blogging voice! I think I might have too

  20. This is just what I needed at this moment. Sometimes I compare myself so much to other people, that blogging just becomes a pain in my ass. Then, I think of this and I get motivated again. Great post!

    Keep up the amazing work <3

  21. I totally agree with this post. Yes yes yes. I am so far trying to start my blog and try out different versions of each – like a beauty post, a journal post, a post about random stuff.. but it’s all experimentation until I find what I love. Otherwise it becomes a chore to blog, and that’s not cool x

    1. That’s a great idea Sharnie! I think a lot of bloggers jump in wanting to be a beauty blogger or a tech blogger and then they realise they don’t like it and give up. Blogging should never be a chore! x

  22. great post and my feelings exactly, I started blogging about two years ago now and have been on and off with it, cahnging my style. changing names etc, at first trying to fit into the it crowd, trying to mould myslef into something that I am not.
    I have tried to carve a way into my little niche and tbh have not been all that successful, but i have now decided, that it is a hobby of mine and that I am to stop throwing money , time and effort into it, especially if its not me or what I want to write about.
    I wrote just about books initially but have included other things too, thingsthat many many other bloggers write about, probably in a better way and with fantastic photos, but i am going to plod along in my merry way and see whats happens.
    sometimes its really disapointing after all your hard work, in putting together a post and hardly anyone read its, but I am sure, over time i will attract more interest.

    1. I know exactly how you feel, but like you say, just keep doing what you’re doing because you enjoy it and hopefully you’ll gain a few more readers over time and if not, that’s still okay. You can have fun blogging even if no one is reading what you’re writing.

  23. Yaaaass girl! Omg, yes! You are so spot on! 🙂 The “crisp white bedsheets and coffee” part totally resonated with me, (I’m a ‘give me my jasmine tea and back away slowly’ kinda girl (Ha!) with 10 lumpy pillows, extra blankets and NONE of the pillows or blankets match.) As did the bits about feeling required to find YOUR NICHE and the unspoken list of criteria we feel to become bloggers. I’ve written everything from impassioned posts about human rights to toilets, lol. All of my writing has been well-received, especially that humor article on toilets…umm, yeah. Lol! And I think it’s because I just write what I feel. Of course I’ll categorize each post because my human rights readers might not want to wade through humorous posts and vice versa. But writing what we feel, when we feel it, is an amazing freedom. I’m still new to formal blogging (though I’ve posted several articles I’ve written online) so reading posts like this is great. Today is the first day I’ve ever seen your blog and I’ve loved EVERY article I’ve read.

    1. Thank you so much Eli, I can’t explain how much that means to me! I’m so glad you could relate to my post. Thank you so much for reading and commenting, I really appreciate it!

  24. Thank you for your honesty and saying what I (and I’m sure lots of other bloggers are thinking) but if we stick at it I’m sure we will shine though and find our place because we are all awesome in our own way !!!

    1. You’re welcome Becky, thanks for reading! You’re exactly right, if we were all the same then blogging would be very boring.

  25. This is amazing and I am in awe of you. I have recently started blogging after lots of anxieties over the same issues. I don’t have a wardrobe full of Zara or Topshop and can’t afford to, nor do I want to buy the entire collection of ridiculously over priced mac make-up. For a long time I felt that my content was pointless because it is not fashion and beauty, but since then I have started a blog on interior and store design. It doesn’t get a lot of traffic, but it is full of passion. High five to you to highlight that not all bloggers have to fit in the beauty and fashion perfect genres. I think it promotes a negative message to younger people, but this says hey- you can bloody do what you want! Well done you! Fay<3
    xo

    1. Thank you Fay, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! Good on you for being different and having a unique blog, it sounds fantastic x

  26. I couldn’t agree more. I am more interested in the blogs of people who share things that I can identify with. I have no make up either and I’ll never be a fashion blogger because, apart from the shoes, I usually pull on outfits that probably look terrible. I love to share my highs, lows and imperfections and just hope I find people that identify with that. Keep on blogging!

    1. Thank you Emma, you sound exactly the same as me! I love reading honest posts that are written from the heart that I can identify with.

  27. This is honestly one of the things I had to figure out when I first started my blog. I tried to be a beauty blog, but although I love makeup, my skills are not good enough to reach anyon . Then I tried fashion, love it but posing and some lack in body confidence at the time made it difficul . It wasn’t until I decided to make a lifestyle plus blog that I felt good about i . I love being able to post about life, diary style entries but sometimes fashion, food or beauty! Love this post!

    1. I agree Ally, being a lifestyle blogger gives you so much more freedom rather than pinning yourself down to a specific niche. Thanks for reading!

  28. Your Blog is Perfect because it’s yours and represents you. Never get caught up in the luxe lifestyle photos – they are staged, and that’s not real! In the beginning the majority of bloggers are winging it and hoping it’s the best representation of what a blog should look like. As soon as they realise that your blog is yours, your life, your personality and what you what to share with the world and how you want to share it, their blog takes shape and your blogger personality appears. Never apologise for your craft and how you choose to express it. The best of luck with your future posts.

    1. Thank you very much Louise, I really appreciate it! Same to you. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

  29. Couldn’t agree more with this post… Love the final line ‘Your blog doesn’t have to match up to the enormously successful ones, just enjoy yourself and write what you feel.’ It would be great if more people embraced this rather than become one of the same in the social media world.

  30. I totally feel the same way. I still now look at blogs and think how on earth do they do it? Being a full time teacher is part of the problem I know, as I don’t get to post as often as I’d like. I still feel as though I don’t exist at all in the blogging world and it does get me down a bit. Saying that though I haven’t given up and I won’t

    1. I’m glad to hear that you’re not going to give up Donna. Please don’t feel like you don’t exist, I bet more people read your blog than you think. It’s better to have a small and loyal following than a large following who aren’t really interested.

  31. High five sister – I totally agree. Someone commented on my blog a while back saying, was I sending the right message about myself by using the word “crap” – not child friendly, and not something a “beauty blogger” would say.

    Firstly, is it sending the right message about me?… Absolutely it is, although realistically that’s one of the least offensive words that come out of my mouth every day.
    Secondly, when did I ever try to or even ask to be considered as a beauty blogger? I rarely wear makeup and would never wear a bra again if it were socially acceptable not to. In fact, I might just give it up anyway.
    Thirdly, I cannot and will not take a selfie – I don’t think I’m bad looking, per se, but I cringe every time I see a photo of myself trying to be remotely sexy or posing. Just no. Absolutely, no.

    Just because we don’t write about makeup, clothing or what we ate today (must include some form of avocado and at least 2 poached eggs or it doesn’t count, right?), that doesn’t mean we can’t blog. Our market is out there too – we just have to keep working to target that audience.

    Keep writing girl, if that’s what you love! I have basically no followers, but I love writing, so who gives a sh*t!

    Jo

    1. I don’t think I’ve ever had such a sassy comment, you go girl! I totally agree with you. I can’t believe someone said that you shouldn’t use the word “crap”. You can say whatever you want – your blog, your rules! Keep doing what you’re doing. You might not have hundreds of followers now but you’ll find your following eventually and your readers will grow. Thank you so much for reading and commenting. It’s one of the best comments I’ve ever had!

  32. Thanks for writing this, I’m new on the blogging scene and I keep panicking that I’m not the best at what I do. I need to keep reminding myself that I am different and different is okay.. and because I’m new I have many mistakes to make before I get things how I want them.

    1. Welcome to the blogging community! Don’t worry about being different, different is always good. Make as many mistakes as you can because you always learn something from mistakes. Thank you for reading!

  33. The thing with the more successful and polished blogs these days is that, while they’re utterly beautiful and inspiring, that they set a standard rivalling professional magazines and sometimes it’s hard to relate. I think those bloggers started doing what they do at a time where the industry really began to kick off and they refined their style in order to be at the top. But, they had to start somewhere. None of them started off already knowing exactly what to do or had the equipment or the environment that they have now. They saw a ‘gap in the market’ so to speak and became the kind of blogger that they wanted to see. And as the blogging community grows, they seem to be set apart from the rest of us that are still figuring out our niche or style. We’re all just trying to put out there content that we ourselves would want to see. And that’s what you’re doing. You’re being that relatable blogger because you’re not afraid to admit that you’re not the polished, white bed sheet and coffee loving kind of person. Blogging is personal and it wouldn’t mean anything if we didn’t draw on our own lives and personalities because we’d end up all being carbon copies of each other. I’ve really enjoyed reading some of your posts! Have a good day x

    1. You make a really good point Elizabeth, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I’ve never considered it from your point of view before. Thank you so much for reading and commenting, I really appreciate it x

  34. This is such a good post Sophie! Totally agree!! I’ve been getting really annoyed at myself lately because my Instagram feed doesn’t look like an editorial in a magazine or that photos I post look messy but who cares?! I am messy. I don’t brush my hair, my rooms a tip and I’ll always have stains on my clothes.
    I guess we all need to remind ourselves and each other more often that we’re just as good when we’re not perfect.

  35. I felt like this! I’m only just setting up my blog properly after revamping my website (opening soon, woo). But… it’s the same on instagram? I’m not the sort of girl to take loads of selfies and my room is definitely not just white bedsheets and walls. I mean… I have fluffy blankets, checkered blankets, books upon books, games, pens, paints… you know? Don’t even get me started on my wardrobe! When I dress like a ‘normal’ girl I end up having comments made at me or weird looks thrown at me because It’s so out of the ordinary for me. Own it, girl. Don’t fret. You own it. Plus, I love your blog.
    Xx Beth ~ http://www.bethparnaby.com

    1. Oh my goodness, thank you so much Beth! You’re so kind. I’m glad you understand my post. Thank you so much for reading and commenting!

  36. I think the sheer volume of responses says it all. I thought you were going to be packing it all in!! Phew!! I’d chew my arm off for the kind of engagement you’ve got, you’re incredible.
    All the best and thanks for your encouraging post.

  37. Fantastic post. I really agree that everyone’s blog should reflect them! I’m not a make up person on my blog because I just don’t fancy writing about it and I’m not into outfit posts either, but I love what I do write about and I love to real other blogs, like yours, that are filled with what the blogger likes to write about. If they were all the same, I’m not sure how fun it would be when it came to reading them x

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

  38. I love this post so much! I didn’t know how much I needed it until I read it.

    Unfortunately some people do seem to believe that all bloggers are expected to fit into the same mould, and that if you want to find success you have to be just like everyone else (like the most successful Instagrams). But blogging is all about personality, and your own stories, and every blog is different, and that’s what’s so great about it.

    You definitely shouldn’t give up on your blog, because you have a really great, honest approach.

    The best of luck! 🙂

    1. Thank you Ellen! I’m definitely not giving up blogging. I’m overwhelmed by the response to this post. I’m so glad you enjoyed my post – thank you so much for reading and commenting!

  39. I love this, I think your blog should be an extension of you.
    If you want camper-van wallpaper and flowers round the edges of posts – then you have them.
    I like a little bit quirky – show’s you’re human 🙂
    xx

  40. Love this post. I stopped blogging years ago because I didn’t think I had anything good enough to read for anyone. Now I’m a little older I’ve got back into blogging and I’m doing it for me. I’m writing what I want to write about. What I know and even if I get one view I’m super grateful. I’ve always loved writing and I feel sad I let the pressure to be like eveyone else writing amazing blogs stop me from doing something I love.

    1. I’m so glad you’ve gotten back into blogging Zoe. You’re right, blogging should be for you and as long as you enjoy it then it doesn’t matter who’s reading.

  41. This relates to me so much! I can’t explain how much times I have felt like giving up blogging because I felt that I would never be good enough. Sometimes I still feel that way. It sucks. But this post really gave me motivation to keep trying. Blogging has become my greatest passion. Thank you for giving me that spark I needed. Loved this post!

    -Andrea Othela
    http://www.andreaothela.co/

    1. You should never feel like you’re not good enough Andrea! You set your own boundaries, no one else. Please don’t put yourself down. I’m so so so happy that my post has given you the spark to keep blogging! I’d hate to see you quit something you love for fear of not being good enough. Just be yourself, speak your mind and as long as you enjoy blogging then keep it up! Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

  42. This is very cool..loving your authenticity. I feel like this too and have to remind myself not to compare my beginning to other people’s middle. There is space for all of us and I am not a polished, coiffured kind of gal ( (ok middle-aged Mum), and never have been. My house isn’t tidy either! But hey being real is what counts and that’s good by me. 🙂

    1. Thank you Aoife, I’m glad you understand and agree with me. You’re right, being real is the most important thing. Thank you for reading and commenting!

  43. I genuinely panicked a little bit when I read the title of this post!! I love how genuine you are and how different you are to all the other bloggers just by being yourself and you can tell you’re not trying to be anyone else!
    Your blog inspired me to start my own so this post is so perfect!

    1. Aw Jess, thank you so much! I’m so happy that I inspired you to start blogging, that’s wonderful to hear. Thank you for reading and commenting, I hope you’re well?

  44. This is so true. I’m relatively new to blogging and when I was thinking of starting, every bit of advice was “define your niche” and I thought that seemed so silly – I’m a human, I don’t FIT into a niche. I think it’s great if you want to be pure beauty or pure food, if that’s what you love, but there’s definitely space for bloggers who just want to represent THEM.

    1. Oh my goodness that is one of those phrases that I absolutely hate! Some people have a niche and that’s okay but it isn’t essential to have a niche to be a good blogger. And I love your quote – “I’m a human, I don’t fit into a niche”. That’s wonderful and I couldn’t have said it better myself!

  45. Luckily I started blogging before those super perfect blogs popped up. Then it was nice, we just had our diaries and shared with friends anything we wanted. Very few people cared about numbers and money. This taught me I didn’t have to be perfect and that I just could blog about anything. So don’t care about the mainstream, there always will be people who are just like you. Good that you are at this point now 🙂

    1. Thank you for sharing your opinion Michaela, it’s refreshing to hear from someone who was part of the blogging community before things became so high-end and picture-perfect! I really appreciate it x

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