Public affection is a controversial subject and it can be difficult for couples to know what the people around them are comfortable with. Everyone has a limit to what they’re comfortable with and I think it’s important that couples respect that.
My boyfriend Jordan is much more relaxed about public affection than I am. I’m always conscious of making the people around me uncomfortable so I don’t like to be too touchy feely in public. If we’re on the bus and Jordan leans over to kiss me then I’ll squirm away because there’s people all around us and I don’t want to make them cringe.
But is the problem with public affection mine or theirs? Should I be embarrassed for showing affection in public? Do the people around us have any right to be offended? Should they just let it go?
My personal opinion is that if there’s a chance that someone near you could be offended by your actions then you should do your best not to offend them. If you invited a friend round for tea who you know doesn’t like seafood then you wouldn’t serve them a prawn cocktail. It’s a matter of respect.
But I also feel like there shouldn’t be anything offensive about someone loving another person. Love is something that should be shared and celebrated. Obviously every part of a relationship shouldn’t be displayed for everyone to see but I think the odd kiss and cuddle every now and again shouldn’t upset anyone.
It also depends on the context. If you’re at an airport or a train station and there’s a couple kissing and cuddling because they’ve been away from each other for a long time then that’s completely different to a couple snogging in a shopping centre. There’s a time and a place for everything.
Every couple is different and everyone will feel differently about public affection and no matter how hard you try you’ll never please everyone.
I’m interested to know what you think about this topic. How do you feel about public affection? Do you cringe when you see a couple kissing and cuddling in public or does it not bother you?