I want to lose weight and there is nothing wrong with that

I want to lose weight and there is nothing wrong with that

I’ve seen a lot of people posting about their new year’s goals and resolutions but this year I’ve noticed a change. I’ve noticed less people want to lose weight and more people want to embrace their size and love their bodies as they are.

Obviously, this is fantastic! I love seeing people love themselves; it’s something I wish I could do! But I can’t, and that’s why I want to lose weight and, frankly, there is nothing wrong with that.

I’ve been a big girl my whole life. I’ve always had an appetite and I’ve always loved food. I’m notorious for comfort-eating and I’ve always struggled to manage my relationship with food. I gradually put weight on throughout my teens and into my twenties and I feel like now is the time for me to put a stop to it.

If I continue to put weight on year-on-year like I have done for most of my life then I will just get bigger and bigger. That’s not good for my self-esteem or my health.

I follow plus-size and body-posi bloggers and influencers across all social media platforms and I admire them, I really do! They seem to have mastered the one thing I never have, self-confidence, and that’s not easy for anyone. But I know that I could never be confident with my body the way it is now so I need (and want!) to make a change.

I feel like when I announced that I wanted to lose weight on Twitter everyone assumed I was going on some crazy diet! That’s not the case at all. I’m simply being more mindful of what I’m eating to take some control over my health.

When I get into the cycle of eating rubbish, I’m stuck in it for good. But the same goes for when I get into the cycle of eating more healthily. Once I’m in a routine it’s not too difficult for me to stick to it because it’s a lifestyle change and not a temporary fitness fad.

Losing weight isn’t necessarily a bad thing and there are different ways you can lose weight, some healthier than others. But just because someone wants to lose weight it doesn’t mean they have an unhealthy perception of themselves or an unhealthy relationship with food.

It is possible to be on a journey to self-confidence and body-positivity while also losing weight.

Just because someone says I should be happy with my body and embrace my size doesn’t mean I have to. At the end of the day, what I do with my body is nobody’s business but my own and if I want to lose weight then I shouldn’t be criticised for that.

So if one of your new year’s resolutions is to love yourself as you are and become more self-confident, then go for it! And if you’re hoping 2018 is the year you finally fit back into your skinny jeans, then you go girl! Whatever your goals are for this year, I hope you achieve every single one of them.

Leave me a comment and let me know what your new year’s resolutions are.



  1. January 30, 2018 / 8:29 pm

    If you need any support or motivation I’m here! I’ve lost 2 stone in 6 months (no diets) just eating healthier and running a lot. You need to do what’s best for you and if that means losing weight for happiness and confidence then do it!

    • Sophie Wright
      January 30, 2018 / 9:15 pm

      Thank you Kirsty, I’m glad you agree with me!

      Well done! That’s a fantastic achievement. I tried running not last year, the year before and I just couldn’t get the hang of it. I ran every other day for six weeks and was just as bad on the last attempt as I was the first. I just don’t have the stamina! I’d love any support or advice you could pass on.

  2. January 31, 2018 / 12:47 pm

    Good on you Sophie! I think it’s a personal goal and you should be supported 🙂 I think being mindful of what you eat is a good place to start! I’m trying to do the same, particularly trying to make sure I eat one type of Veggie meal a week to minimise what meat I am consuming. Good luck hun!

    • Sophie Wright
      February 5, 2018 / 8:06 pm

      Thank you Emmie! I’d love to move over to a more veggie diet too. I’m not a massive meat fan so I’m hoping it won’t be too difficult but any change is a challenge. Good luck to you too!

  3. Marie
    January 31, 2018 / 6:54 pm

    Way to go Sophie! It’s all about what is right for you. Not what is right for someone else. Ask long as you aren’t hurting yourself or others, what’s the issue?!

    I wish you didn’t live so far away, we could do Clubber together (you’d love it )

    • Sophie Wright
      February 5, 2018 / 8:08 pm

      You’re completely right Marie!! I wish I lived closer too, we’d be the Clubbercise dream team! xxx

  4. Yasmin
    February 6, 2018 / 12:42 pm

    I’ve always been a size 6 to 8, and as a teenager it was great, as a young woman in my twenties, it’s not. I want the big boobs (without surgery) a bigger bum and a little bit more meat on my thighs and tummy, honestly I do. I think it’s sexy af. I’m not aiming to eat cheeseburgers and get ‘fat’ but a size 10-12 would be a dream. I’m trying to do it in a healthy way, avoiding bad fats and generally crap food. The take away from that is whatever you feel you need to do, just go for it and be proud of what you look like. I’m not trying to put on weight because I want to be ‘attractive’, I want to put on weight to look healthy. And as long you’re doing it for yourself, it’s all good! Good luck with your goals! x

    The Sweet Seven Five

    • Sophie Wright
      February 16, 2018 / 7:18 pm

      Thank you for commenting Yasmin! It’s great to learn about a new perspective. I’m aiming for a size 10/12 too but obviously I’m trying to lose the weight rather than put on the weight like yourself. You’re bang on when you say “as long as you’re doing it for yourself, it’s all good” because that is the most important thing. Good luck to you too! I hope you achieve everything you want and more xx

  5. February 6, 2018 / 9:44 pm

    Good luck!! I’m all for body confidence but if you don’t feel happy with how you look you aren’t going to be confident, there is no harm in trying to lose weight it’s not like you’re going to starve yourself to try and lose it! I’ve recently written a healthy eating post where I talked about things I did to help me lose two stone if you’d like to check it out!

    Jess xx

    • Sophie Wright
      February 16, 2018 / 7:12 pm

      Thank you Jess, I’m glad you can understand where I’m coming from. That sounds like the perfect post for me, thank you for sharing! I’ll definitely check it out. Congrats on your incredible weight loss!! x

  6. February 7, 2018 / 8:40 pm

    Sophieeeee! This is a brilliant post. I feel like your words have come right out of my mind. It’s how I’ve been feeling for a very long time. I definitely agree with you on every point you made.

    Sabah || http://www.womanishaffairs.org

    • Sophie Wright
      February 16, 2018 / 7:08 pm

      Thank you Sabah! I’m so happy you understand how I feel.

  7. March 24, 2018 / 7:16 pm

    Totally love this post Sophie. Don’t listen to others and go with your head and heart. Totally agree with you on your points, and has inspired me to get my act together and do what what’s right for myself too.

    I’ve been struggling with my weight for many years, putting it on more during teens and after having my daughter, I just carried on gaining more. Right now I’m at my biggest and struggling with my mental health issues it’s been hard to battle through.

    • Sophie Wright
      March 25, 2018 / 3:56 pm

      Aw Ann Marie, I’m sure you’ll get to your happy place in the end. It’s a difficult one because weight gain is often a viscous cycle of gaining weight, being sad about it so comfort eating and being unmotivated to make lifestyle changes and ending up with more and more weight gain. But I’m sure you can break that cycle and beat your demons. Let me know how you get on, I wish you all the luck in the world! xx

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