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Why are bloggers being criticised for not being “real”?

Why are bloggers being criticised for not being real

The latest bandwagon in the blogosphere seems to be criticising bloggers/influencers/people in general for posting content that isn’t considered “real” and, to be honest, I don’t understand it. Particularly on Instagram.

I understand people wanting to follow bloggers who share the more everyday bits of their life, like their weekly shop (I love a good Lidl haul), their health issues or their cleaning routine (c’mon, who doesn’t adore Mrs Hinch?). But I also understand that it’s not for everyone. The only thing I don’t understand is the need to criticise.

What even is “real”? Who decides what it is or what it means?

For a start, real means different things to different people. I suppose ultimately something we consider real is something we feel we can relate to.

But everyone is different. And, let’s be real (ha, see what I did there?) something I consider real isn’t necessarily going to be real to Cardi B (just an example, probably a bad one).

In my opinion, because we’re all so different, no one can tell you what is real to you. It’s not anyone else’s place. It’s for you to decide.

We all use Instagram for different reasons

For some of us, Instagram is just a place to share some half-decent snaps and follow our fave celebs. For others, it is a literal money-maker. Their day job. Their 9-5.

If a “real” pic of them doesn’t do as well as a staged pic or one they’ve had to put a bit of work into to perfect then it’s literally losing them money. And, at the end of the day, we all need to make money. It makes the world go round.

Like I say, for some people real images are something they can relate to. However it’s not always that simple. “Real” doesn’t always pay the bills!

Is anyone really 100% real?

I like to think I’m pretty open when it comes to my blog and Instagram but, thinking about it, there’s a lot that I don’t share. And that’s because it either isn’t pretty or it’s completely boring.

Some would say that’s me not being “real”. I’d say I’m just sharing the best bits, which I suppose means it’s not completely real.

But, if we’re all being honest with ourselves, do we really want 100% real 100% of the time?

I don’t know about you but I’m not always that bothered if someone has spilt their drink down themselves or if they’ve had a rubbish day at work. Sometimes it’s alright, but sometimes I just want to see a drop-dead gorj outfit pic with tags to where everything is from and a discount code in the caption.

We all love beautiful pictures, so does it really matter where they came from?

Instagram is all about sharing beautiful images with the world. Or at least I think it is and that’s what I try to do.

Sometimes a beautiful picture doesn’t just happen. It might need a little bit of staging or a few takes to get it just right and ready for the grid. Take my outfit shots for example.

Don’t be too harsh please, I’ve only just started posting more of myself on the ‘gram. But this pic here took at least 10 attempts before I a) got the 10/10 bangin shot of my dreams or b) got tired of standing around and feeling a bit silly. And, if I’m honest, I don’t think it turned out too bad.

A post shared by Sophie 💖 (@sophiesnotebook) on

Of course, I don’t announce to my followers in the caption just how much blood, sweat and tears went into getting every photo (not always, anyway) but that’s because I don’t have to. Because I don’t really think it matters. You might think it does, and that’s okay, but it isn’t a rule.

Just because you don’t think someone’s content is “real” doesn’t mean it’s wrong. As long as their content isn’t offending or hurting anyone then I can’t see why anyone would want to go out of their way to criticise it.

There are bound to be bloggers out there sharing your kind of “real”

As with anything, not everyone is going to like your content and vice versa. It would be silly to expect otherwise.

But for every blog post or Insta snap you don’t think is real, there’s probably 10 that you are going to love and completely relate to.

It’s all about finding the people who create your kind of content.

Some love to pose outside of pastel coloured cafes and edit their photographs to perfection. While others like to share good old-fashioned pics of their breakfast (old-school Insta style) and just pick whichever filter looks best. Both are great and each one is real, but to different people.

I’m sure this is bound to be a controversial topic, so please do let me know what you think. Also, let me know what real means to you. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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  • Reply
    October 6, 2018 at 5:59 pm

    Yaaaaas lay down them truths!

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      Sophie Wright
      October 11, 2018 at 8:09 pm

      Haha, I’m glad you agree! xx

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    October 6, 2018 at 6:22 pm

    Now a Lidl’s haul is something I would LOVE to see! Great post and really brings it back down to reality and shows how everyone perceives things differently

    • Reply
      Sophie Wright
      October 11, 2018 at 8:09 pm

      I love Lidl too! I’m so glad you enjoyed my post. Thank you for reading and commenting xx

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    Caroline Agoba
    October 7, 2018 at 2:34 pm

    I love this post so much. People are so quick to.nake judgement on someone’s personality and the way they portray themselves, without even knowing them personally. How can you, someone who has never even come into contact with a person, decide whether or not they are being truly themselves?

    Caroline |

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      Sophie Wright
      October 11, 2018 at 8:08 pm

      I completely agree Caroline! We’re all different, so real to one person is never going to be the same for another. Thank you for reading and commenting! I’m so glad you enjoyed my post xx

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    October 9, 2018 at 11:28 am

    This such a fascinating read! You’re right. No one is ever 100% real online. Not even our friends and family who aren’t bloggers or ‘influencers’ or whatever. No one documents their mundane daily life. It’s a highlight reel.
    “ultimately something we consider real is something we feel we can relate to.”
    I so agree with that comment – I think those people who get angry about bloggers not being ‘real’ are those who aren’t bloggers and who don’t understand this industry.

    By the way, beautiful photo of you! Love that colourful wall ! 🙂

    Hannah Gladwin | Fashion Blog |

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      Sophie Wright
      October 11, 2018 at 8:06 pm

      Hannah, you are speaking my language. I’m so glad you understood and enjoyed my post. I was frightened I’d get some backlash so I’m relieved that we are on the same page. Also, thank you so much for your lovely compliment! That is so so kind of you. Thank you for reading and commenting xx

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